Insights!: 2025

Thursday, November 27, 2025

Blend In or Stand Out! Give In or Walk Out!

Sometimes the beauty lies in blending in, and sometimes it lies in standing out.

We all experience different kinds of situations, and at times it is important to speak up, while at other times it is wiser to quietly follow.

But whatever we choose, we should never lose ourselves in the process.

Many things can affect us in different ways.

Sometimes people reach out for help.

Sometimes we reach out to others.

Sometimes others are needy.

Sometimes we are the ones in need.

Sometimes people are untrue.

Sometimes they get angry and may even wish to harm.

Sometimes excessive softness or politeness makes others feel entitled to walk over you.

These experiences happen all the time.

Yet the essential truth remains: no matter the situation:

Stand tall.

Do not seek to fight,

But be prepared to defend yourself if someone pulls you into the field.

When you are in need, make a commitment to return the favor or establish a fair exchange.

When honoring others’ needs, do the same, hurt no one, including yourself, and ensure fairness in every interaction.

When someone mistakes kindness for weakness and crosses boundaries, take a firm stand and re-establish stronger limits.

Do not fear loss or gain.

Follow when necessary, lead when necessary, but always be fair to all.

No one is perfect.

Take everyone’s perspective into account.

Forgive others, and forgive yourself.

Learn from each experience,

And be prepared next time,

To know when to blend in and when to stand out,

When to give in and when to walk out.

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

11.27.2025

Monday, October 20, 2025

It's a beautiful festival

The night is dark,
The lamp brings light,
The prayer lightens the heart,
Around is delight.

The fireworks are drums,
And flutes to the ears,
We make memories,
For years and years.

We dress up,
We deck up,
We decorate,
We celebrate.

The victory of
Good over evil,
The triumph of the Kind
kills the Devil.

The nicety is here
To prevail,
The goodness is here
To hail,

I wish you all,
Most warmly,
On this festival of lights,
Happy Diwali!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH
©️ Copyright.2025. All rights reserved. Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

Saturday, October 18, 2025

While watching a show, I recently came across this song and fell in love with it. Though, lived in the neighboring state, I have never been to Bihar. Something in the local language and dialect sounds very sweet and inviting. Attempting to sing it!

Felt like writing a few lines myself to express the emotions of the song, the show, and the place, as below:

'Sar jhukane ki koshish mat karna, pyaar se maang lo, kaat ke de denge

Kabhi darane ki koshish mat karna, darenge to nahi, par dar hota kya hai, dikha denge

Katla karna ho to pyaar ki nazar dal dena, haste haste jaan bhi luta denge'

English translation:

Don’t try to force my head to bow, just ask with respect and love, and I will gift it to you.

Don’t try to frighten me, because I won’t be scared, but I will show you what fear truly feels like.

If you wish to kill me, just glance at me with love and care, and I will leave this world happily for you.

Dr. Jaya Sonkar, MD, MPH

"Please find below the link to the cover version of the song:"

https://youtu.be/vHuqIfp32e4?si=ScM9cvn2jmwKYYz8

Wednesday, October 15, 2025

Song : Ye Soi Si Shaam

Ye soi si shaam

Mere aansuon ke naam

Wo ansu jo laye

Mere naam ek paigaam

Din dhal jayega

Subah nayi layega

Wo Din jo beet gaya

Subah yaad aayega

Din ko de anjam

Kar poore adhure kaam

Ki jab phir Din dhal jaye

Dil kar paye tab aaraam

Ye soi si shaam

Mere aansuon ke naam

Wo ansu jo laye

Mere naam ek paigaam

Moti toot gaya

Sapna chhoot gaya

Mala phir pirayenge

Sapne phir sajayenge

Ye soi si sham

Kar le je bhar ke vishram

Jab din naya aayega

Ujala chha jayega

Tuesday, October 14, 2025

A Very Long Day!

It’s said, “Ek aur Ek Gyarah.” in Hindi

In English, it means, when one and one come together, their strength feels like eleven, not just two.

And when you find your other one, that’s how comforting and beautiful the day can feel.

A Very Long Day!

It’s been a very long day
It’s been a very tough day
You had one, and I had one
Now you are just sitting
At the end of the day

I come to you,
In your lap I lay,
And say

Would you brush your fingers through my hair?
Would you, one more time, show me the same care?
Would you see me through all my layers?
Would you rescue me from despair?

You say yes
And pull me to you
You say yes
And hide me in you
You say yes
And brush your fingers through my hair
You say yes
And look at me with care

We've been through the storms
We've been through the floods
We've been through the winds
We've been through the mud

We've held hands
And never let go
We've seen a werewolf
In each other
And chose to stay
Even if it kills

We've held hands
And never let go
We've seen a god
In each other
And chose to stay
And get healed

We've held our heads high
With pride in knowing each other
We've been through thick and thin
Together we cherish, together we suffer

We've had long days
We've had tough days

And at the end of the day
It all melts away

When I come lay in your lap
And you brush your fingers through my hair
And hug me like a big bear
And rescue us from despair

And love, love, love, forever...

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH
©️ Copyright 2025. Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH. All Rights Reserved.
10.14.2025

Friday, October 10, 2025

My Perfect Moon!

Is the Grass Greener on the Other Side? Or Do We Have It Greener on Ours?

I got my new telescope.
I looked at the moon.

My pretty moon,
That was a perfect circle,

Wasn't perfect anymore.
Its edges were uneven.
It had pits and holes.

It was still the same moon.
It hadn’t changed.
Only I could see it better.
It was the same as before,
Just that my view was enhanced.

It is said:
Door ke dhol suhavane.
English Translation:
The things that are farther are more attractive.

A similar idiom is:
The grass is greener on the other side.

While we live on Mother Earth,
And Mother Earth gives us life,
We have the luxury to enjoy
The beauty of our moon, other planets, and even the sun, which we know are not habitable.

The extreme temperatures there cannot sustain life.

The things that are farther look perfect.
It is only when we see through a microscope that we can observe every cell and know it better.

But once we know it, it is sometimes a good idea to step back and enjoy its beauty without analyzing it in detail.
Because the more perfect things appear, the more content we feel.
And that contentment helps us overlook the finer imperfections of those who are near us.

When we are done exploring the finer details,
It becomes more enjoyable to embrace the imperfections
And appreciate the perfect distant picture.

Let us enjoy the beauty of our moons!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar, MD MPH
10.11.2025
©️ Copyright 2025 Dr. Jaya Sonkar. All Rights Reserved

Thursday, October 9, 2025

Rays Of Light! Whatever Happens, Happens For Good

Jo Bhi Hota Hai, Achiever Ke Liye Hota Hai'

(English Translation: 'Whatever happens, happens for good')

Thanks to everyone who said yes to me

Because of them, I am firmly rooted

Thanks to everyone who said No to me

Because of them, I could discover my hidden capabilities

Thanks to every success that rewarded my hard work

Because of that, I was able to make a positive change

Thanks to every failure that made me work harder

Because of that, I mastered the skill and stayed grounded

Thanks to every friend who held my hand

Because of them, I experienced the warmth and support

Thanks to every foe

Because of them, I learned to stay alert and wise

Thanks to every estranged friend

Because of them, I became more self reliant and detached.

Thanks to everyone who cheated

Because of them, I learned to use trust wisely

Thanks to all the experiences, positive or negative

Because of those, I learned to pick up the gems on the way and not collect just the stones.

Thanks to the life

Because it added to my bag of wisdom

Thanks to the death

Because it helped me value the life

The idiom

'Jo Bhi Hota Hai, Achiever Ke Liye Hota Hai'

(English Translation: 'Whatever happens, happens for good')

was probably created by a very learned soul.

It takes a lifetime of experiences to understand this one line!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

10.9.2025

Thursday, September 25, 2025

The beautiful night

The beautiful night!

It's dark

It helps see colors with closed eyes

It's dark

It helps to see the moon shine bright

It's dark

It sharpens and steadies the mind

It's dark

It helps the emotions unwind

It's dark

It opens the mind's eyes and enhances the sight

It's dark

It's helps to relish and cherish the sunlight

It is indeed a beautiful night!

9.24.2025

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

Thursday, September 11, 2025

Likability

Do people like you?
Maybe.
Maybe not.

Do you like anyone?
Maybe.
Maybe not.

Everyone is the lead character in their own lives. No one plays a supporting or second role in their own story.

Everyone is the center of their lives and wants to see things around them in their favor. And there is nothing wrong with it.

That means that everyone likes themselves, and whatever else they like or whoever else they like matches up with something around their lives.

Likability is self-centric.

Anyone likes anyone because some form of need is being fulfilled.

It can be a very kind need or an unkind one. But some need, some wish, or some purpose is being met, giving rise to likability.

No one likes being beat up.
No one likes being mistreated.
No one likes to be ignored.
No one likes to feel small about themselves.
No one likes to feel dejected.

On the other hand:

Everyone likes to feel valued.
Everyone likes to feel loved.
Everyone likes to be respected.
Everyone likes to be cared for.
Everyone likes to be heard.
Everyone likes to be centered.
Everyone likes to feel good about themselves.
Everyone likes to be nurtured.
Everyone likes a comfort zone.

Something or the other is always being met before the spark of likability ignites.

And all of it has to be absent, and negative stimulus present, before likability ends, dislike begins, or indifference sets in.

So when we like someone, it’s truly what we like about ourselves in the presence of that likable someone.

No one starts liking someone who has caused them harm. Everyone starts liking someone when that person brings positive influence.

So: I like him. I like her. She likes me. He likes me.

Or even: We love someone, or someone loves us. These are all subjective.

Some pull or push is always working when someone likes or dislikes someone.

People who were once close drift apart when the symbiosis ends or the commensalism stops.

A Personal Example

A few days ago, I went to a restaurant. While enjoying my meal, I met an old man who didn’t know anything about Indian food.

He asked me if I knew what those black ball-like things were and if they were good.

I told him excitedly that those are called gulab jamun. Then he had some more questions.

I took my time to explain each dish in the buffet, the best way to eat it and which items should be packed separately. By the time we were done setting our plates, we were both very pleased to have met.

I felt happy helping the old man relish Indian food for the first time, and he was happy to get authentic recommendations.

A very pleasant experience, indeed, a likable one.

In My Work

Similarly, when I meet patients, all of them are close to my heart. They make me feel fulfilled by allowing me to help them.

However, some patients leave a deep impact through their kind gestures and their trust in care. That trust motivates me to go above and beyond, whether it is possible or not.

While the care remains the same for everyone, such people certainly spark the magic of likability.

The Essence of Likability

That being said, we don’t need to bend ourselves backwards, nor do we need to leave ourselves behind to become someone else to experience likability.

Because people don’t really like you. They like themselves, and how you make them feel.

Stay yourself. Stay kind. Stay positive. Create a genuine aura around you, and the people with the same frequency will resonate. They will enter your circle of likability, because they like themselves, and your presence helps them like themselves even more.

So, be likable or not, just make sure to be yourself, and be kind.

Dr. Jaya Sonkar, MD, MPH
9.11.25
©️ Copyright 2025. Dr. Jaya Sonkar. All rights reserved.

Friday, September 5, 2025

Who Owes Whom?

Who owes whom?

The rain owes the clouds

The clouds owe the sea

The sea owes the rivers

The river owes the rain

The carnivores owe the herbivores

The herbivores owe the grass

The grass owes the soil

The soil owes all animals

The wisdom owes its root to the pain

The pain owes its spark to fun

The fun owes its ease to health and wealth

And health and wealth owe the wisdom

The diamond owes the admirers

The admirers owe the diamond

The lotus owes the mud

The mud owes the lotus

The chicken owes the egg

The egg owes the chicken

The taker owes the giver

The giver owes the taker

The taker can be the giver

The giver can be the taker

What goes around

Comes around

What rises, falls

What falls, rises

Life is a wave

It rises

It falls

It rises again

And so on

So who owes whom?

No one owes no one

And everyone owes everyone

Live the life

Full of gratitude

And

Free of Debt

Fly, Rise, Elevate, Lighten,

Bind, but freely and wilfully

Leave, but with care and love

Live with grace,

Freely, yet thankfully!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

Monday, September 1, 2025

Impermanence

Impermanence

Everything has a timeline
Everything has a lifeline
Everything has a beginning
Everything has an end

Nothing is here to stay
Nothing is there to last
While things seem to move slow
Within a blink, they go too fast

It’s the sand that will slip
It’s beyond anyone’s grip
It’s the wind that will blow
It’s the water that will flow

It’s the wave that will soar
It’s the rain that will pour
It’s the thunder that will roar
It will see its own door

Know yourself
Prioritize yourself
Love yourself
Cherish yourself

Nothing and no one will
Last forever
The only one to stay till the end
Is you yourself, my dear friend

Know your element and become it
Accomplish your goals
Fulfill your desire
Stay harmless to others
And also yourself!

By Dr. Jaya Sonkar, MD, MPH

09.01.2025
© Dr. Jaya Sonkar. All rights reserved. 2025

Friday, August 29, 2025

Back to Square One, but with a Perspective

Q. Does spirituality mean altruism?

A. No.

Q. Does austerity mean denunciation?

A. No.

Q. Does kindness mean it's okay to accept harm?

A. No.

Q. Does letting go mean being insensitive?

A. No.

Q. Does indifference mean ignorance?

A. No.

Q. Is it possible to come back to square one after attaining self-awareness?

A. Yes.

If we stand on a mountain peak with our eyes closed, we are 'there', but 'not really there'.

If we open our eyes, we are there, we are truly present, and we become aware of everything around us.

We can still do everything, live life the same way, do business, pursue education, travel, dance, host parties, but we begin to operate from an enlightened stage. A stage where we are more conscious:

Of what is there,

Of what won’t be there,

Of what’s temporary,

Of what’s meaningful,

Of what’s truly important.

It’s like knowing the game of life before playing it.

It’s like making an informed decision.

It’s like opening a third eye.

It’s like being in the same place, doing the same things, returning to square one... but with a perspective.

Let’s come together to explore the inner world, awaken our senses, and step into Spirituality 101. Let’s begin the journey, with meditation.

Meditation Techniques to Get Started

Here are a few simple yet powerful meditation practices that can help cultivate inner awareness and clarity:

Silent Sitting

Sit quietly in a comfortable position with your eyes closed. Allow your thoughts to pass without resistance. Observe them like a spectator, without judgment or analysis. This helps train your mind to detach and witness rather than react.

Focused Reflection

It's okay to think deeply about something that truly matters to you. Gently hold that thought and explore it from all angles. This is not overthinking, this is mindful contemplation.

Breath Awareness

Focus on your breathing. Feel the air move in and out of your nostrils or notice the rise and fall of your chest. Let your breath anchor you to the present moment.

Chanting or Mantra Repetition

Repeat a word, phrase, or sound, silently or aloud. This could be a spiritual mantra or simply a calming sound like "Om." The rhythm helps center the mind.

Trataka (Candle Gazing)

In a dark room, stare at the blue part of a candle flame for a few seconds. Then close your eyes and observe the image of the flame within. This enhances concentration and visual focus.

Target Staring

Choose a fixed point or object and focus on it steadily for a few minutes without blinking. This trains the mind to stay anchored and undistracted.

Singing or Note Practice

Using your voice as a tool, either by singing, humming, or doing basic note practice, can be incredibly meditative. Sound vibrations affect the mind and body deeply.

Puzzle Solving

Even solving puzzles can be a form of meditation. When done mindfully, it sharpens focus and brings mental clarity while keeping the mind engaged in a positive challenge.

These practices help you build the ability to focus on what truly matters, while reducing the noise, both external and internal. Over time, they allow you to become more aware of your surroundings, your emotions, and your inner world.

Let’s step into a deeper inside

Which opens into a wider outside.

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

8.30.2025

Sunday, July 13, 2025

Pursuit of Chase or Pursuit of Peace

Pursuit of Chase or Pursuit of Peace?

One day, I stepped out onto the balcony of my beach house, felt the sea breeze on my skin, had the most beautiful girl in town inside my home, and a Porsche in my garage. I thought to myself, "This is what I’ve dreamed of all my life."

But now that it was finally here, it didn’t feel any different. It didn’t give me the thrill I had imagined. I still felt like the same child—wondering what more I needed to keep myself amused.

I was still the same inside, unchanged, and uncertain about what to do next.

It was as if everything I had chased all this time wasn’t as amazing as I thought it would be, says Mr. Smith.

I’ve lived an interesting life. Now in my 90s, I come from a hippie culture. I’ve been there, done it all, and I’m still standing. I have children, lost three wives along the way—two to life, and one through separation. And yet, I still feel like there’s something I’m searching for.

Mr. Smith’s story, in a way, resembles many others in one common truth:

Sometimes, it’s the chase we’re chasing—not the goal itself. Our minds crave activity. They thrive in motion. But once we reach the destination, we must learn to cherish the stability while it lasts—because instability will find its way back eventually. When we do arrive at a place of calm, learning to maintain that fragile balance—an unstable equilibrium—with peace, is what fosters true strength.

In our pursuit of a goal, we often miss the journey, too focused on the finish line. But it’s within the journey that the real richness lies—the experiences, the lessons, the growth, and the delicate balance of life that we learn to manage.

Because in the end, stability and peace are what we ultimately seek—to truly rest in peace.

If we’ve done what we set out to do, and reached where we were meant to, we must also learn to remain there—with joy and grace.

Often, we keep setting new goals, and that’s not a bad thing. We want to explore the full extent of our abilities.

But when it comes to wants, there’s wisdom in identifying a point of comfort and choosing not to endlessly increase those desires. That’s where peace and stability are born.

Not craving the next “want” doesn’t mean abandoning growth—it means being content where we are, while still using our potential fully. That balance can lead to both success and serenity.

It’s the path where we encounter new things—flowers, berries, animals, landscapes, people. And it’s the destination that gives us the stillness to reflect on everything the path brought us.

Both the pursuit and the reward matter.

We should remain active and purposeful—but not frantic in our pursuit. Let the next phase come from a peaceful mind, stepping into a new journey with grace. And when we finally reach the summit of the mountain—we must remember to pause, lift our binoculars, and take in the beauty of the path we climbed.

07.14.2025

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

Saturday, July 12, 2025

Life In Cinderella's Shoes

Life in Cinderella's Shoes

If there is a piece of the puzzle, it will only fit the puzzle it belongs to—and the puzzle will be completed only when the last piece has made its way to the puzzle.

An old tale of Cinderella is known by one and all. The customized magical shoes could only fit Cinderella and no one else.

Has it ever felt like some positions keep on vacating until they find the right fit?

Life is just the same. It has to fit in the shoes it belongs to, and the shoes have to find a way for the life to complete.

Whether it is about people in life, a goal, a task, a responsibility, or a role—it will only work when it is the right fit.

If it isn't the right fit, the walk will be painful until you get rid of the misfit.

And if you don't get rid of the misfit, the misfit will tire, wear out, and give up eventually.

One way or another, it will separate if it wasn't meant to be.

So if it ever feels raw—missing a piece of the puzzle—just imagine the magical shoes. It has to fit, or it will never fit.

It's not just about one; it's about one and all—whether they would fit together

Find the best fit, and fit in the best find, and life will become a smooth walk in beautiful Cinderella's shoes!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar

07.12.2025

Wednesday, July 2, 2025

Nothing To Lose!

Nothing to lose!

There is nothing to lose.

It's true that

There is wealth to lose

It's true that

There is health to lose

It's true that

There is love to lose

It's true that

There is dove to lose

But no one asked

To not maintain this

No one asked to

Abandon these

If we see the process

Of making a sandcastle

Hard work, time, and effort to build

Were phasic joys that give an experience

That effort also

Led to an attachment

But can the sandcastle

Be there forever?

It will mingle with the rest

Sooner or later

What's there today

Won't be tomorrow

But what's there today

May take a new shape

And evolve tomorrow

Where were we 100 years ago?

Where will we be 100 years later?

We don’t know

But clearly, its a journey

From somewhere unknown

To somewhere unknown

And whatever we know

Will merge into that unknown

While the present will be lost

The past will be known

And the future will be gained

The wind will blow

From one place to another

The water will flow

From one place to another

The planets will revolve

Around one sun or another

The vacuum will be there

In the entire space

It's said

Energy is never lost

It only changes from

One form to another

And so will we...

What we can do is

Use the energy

In whichever form it is

In the best possible way

And create

A best possible experience!

While there seems to be

A lot to lose

There actually is

Nothing to lose!!!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

7.2.2025

Sunday, June 29, 2025

Multi Religionism

What is better?

Knowing one language

Being Bilingual

Being Multilingual

What is better?

Having one treatment modality

Having two treatment modalities

Having multiple treatment modalities

What is better?

Having access to one country

Having access to two countries

Having access to multiple countries

What is better?

Having one person on the earth?

Having two persons on the earth?

Having multiple persons on the earth?

Can we say that:

Everything has pros and cons

Everything has strengths and flaws

What is good for one can be bad for the other

What is easy for one can be difficult for the other

What is good to follow for one can be hard to follow for another

What is easy to have faith in for one can be difficult for another

Can we say that everything can have two sides?

Then,

Can we say that all religions can have something good and something not so good?

Then,

Can we say that following many religions and grasping the pros from all is better than following just one or two?

In such a scenario, can we say that orthodoxy to one can never be good?

Can we agree that harming someone physically or mentally is not good?

Can we agree that Non-Violence is the most productive way to live and build a society globally?

Can we agree that if we imbibe the goodness and healthy habits and ethics from all religions and not condemn any, it will be beneficial for one and all?

Can we say that having absolute freedom for anyone to adopt any faith or many faiths would be good?

Can we say that if we follow Humanism, and be true humans and use our emotions and follow all the good preaching from all religions and follow the religion of medicine to stay and keep everyone healthy, it would be good?

Can we agree that following the simple rules as mentioned below may bring peace and harmony:

* Do no harm to anyone

* Try to make it easy for others without making it hard for self

* Live and let live

* Do not interfere with anyone's free will

* Let everyone follow their chosen faith or faiths and adapt to their chosen lifestyle

* Do not force any clothing or dressing style on anyone, male or female

* People should be able to wear what they want. Anything or everything.

Regardless of faith, women should have equal rights as men in all religions and should have the freedom to wear, walk, and behave freely regardless of the religion.

The most advanced culture has men who protect their women’s free will and men who have self-control instead of the power to control their women.

Can we say that what we expect from others should first be expected from ourselves?

Monogamy is good for raising families.

However, if anyone believes in polygamy, then can we agree that that someone should allow polygamy to that someone’s partner too? And if that someone can't allow that, then that someone should not do it either.

People should be able to eat what they want and honor others’ choices too.

People should adapt healthy habits from all faiths.

Mindfulness, physical exercises, fresh fruits and vegetables, and plant-based diets and lean white meats are better than sugars, carbohydrates, red meat, and shellfish.

Can we follow evidence-based modern medical science as a religion instead of following eminence-based rules when it comes to health and lifestyle?

Can we say that we don’t need leaders in any religion?

Can we say we can lead our own faith in whichever way we want?

And if we agree, can we answer as mentioned below when asked what’s our religion?

- We are Humans and follow Humanism, and Humanism is multireligionism that adapts the best from all faiths, respects all faiths, and respectfully avoids any harmful practices from any faith.

And if you agree that this could be beneficial in any way, can I ask for your support to please share this thought forward in an attempt to make the world more beautiful, more peaceful, and more livable?

Thank you 🙏

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

06.29.2025

Sunday, June 15, 2025

Love is Endless

Love is Endless!

For the parents who lost their children

For the children who lost their parents

For the siblings who lost their siblings

For the spouses who lost their spouses

For the friends who lost their friends

For anyone who lost anyone

The loss is always there

The grief is always there

The memories are always there

So is the love...

The love is always there

The love is both sided

It travels through the boundaries

Of Life and Death

It's like the light that's received from the stars millions of miles away

Sometimes it's visible

Sometimes we need special lens

And sometimes we just need

An imagintion and perception

Sooner or later, it always happens

We learn to perceive

We learn to believe

We learn to cope

We learn to hope

We learn to live

We learn to give

We learn what's there

We learn what's here

We learn about death

We learn about faith

After all, aren't we alive

When we are asleep

Aren't we alive

When a part of the body is not

Aren't we receptive

When senses are shut

Aren't we awakened

To start a new day

Could it be

That life is a chapter

And the book is endless

Could it be

That after the end

A new chapter begins

Could it be

That the end is only

A beginning of new beginnings

For the parents who lost their children

For the children who lost their parents

For the siblings who lost their siblings

For the spouses who lost their spouses

For the friends who lost their friends

For anyone who lost anyone

We can only do what we can

While we are limited with our bodily presence

But our minds can do

What is unlimited

We can reach places

We can believe the endless

We can have faith in the impossible

We can love selflessly and endlessly

Selfless love is the key to the eternal calm

We can selflessly shower

The love and blessings

On those who ever were

On those who will not be

On those who are around

On those who we surround!

Because,

Love is Selfless

Love is Endless

With lots of deep thoughts

Yours truly,

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

6.15.25

Saturday, June 14, 2025

I found myself

I saw the mirror many times

But today, I saw myself

I saw my eyes

I saw my tears

I saw my smiles

I saw my fears

I saw my cries

I saw my cheers

I saw the mirror many times

But today, I felt myself

I felt the kind

I felt the unkind

I felt the easy

I felt the tough

I felt the soft

I felt the rough

I felt the joy

I felt the sorrow

I felt the cotton

I felt the rock

I felt the pleasant

I felt the anger

I saw the mirror many times

But today, I met with myself

Who am I?

I am not just my eyes

I am not just my ears

I am not just my lips

I am not just my hair

I am not just my skin

I have a deeper inside

I am not just a body

I have a beautiful mind

I am not perfect

I have my flaws

I have my moments

Of fire and ice

I have the strength

I have the weakness

I saw the mirror many times

But today, I found myself

I had my nightmares

I had my dreams

I had my failures

I had my success

I had my losses

I had my wins

I lost some on the way

I found some on the way

But most importantly

I saw a new me

I found me on the way

Metamorphosized

Determined

To continue to grow

Continue to evolve

I saw the mirror many times,

But today, I found growth

I found realization

That growth comes with all

Positives or negatives

Thicks or Thins

Growth comes with

Anything and everything

I saw the mirror many times

But today, I thanked it

For showing the me

Beyond me

Because

I found myself

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

6.14.25

Monday, June 9, 2025

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder

Filth is in the eyes of the perpetrator

Dreams are in the mind of an achiever

Fear is in the mind of a failure

Faith is in the heart of a believer

Doubt is in the heart of a traitor

Wealth is in the richness of actions

Penury is in the poverty of forbearance

Victory is in the bravery

Defeat is in the cowardice

Stability is in the calm

Turmoil is in the chaos

Love is in the selflessness

Hatred is in the selfishness

Grace is in the eyes of the beholder

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder

Dr. Jaya Sonkar

6.9.2025

The Grandeur – What Does It Tell Us?

The Grandeur – What Does It Tell Us?

When something is grand, it doesn't need to demonstrate its grandeur anymore.
It just has it — and it doesn't care about having it.

Because it is simply grand, and there is nothing to prove, no one to impress.
It just stands tall in its own glory.

Be it the Empire State Building, the Eiffel Tower, or any grand structure.
Be it an ocean, a canyon, a mountain, or the sky.
And be it any accomplished person.

There are no words needed and no actions done.
They are just there.

Look at a tall waterfall — Niagara, Yosemite, or any other.
It keeps on running the show as long as it can.
As long as it has life, it will show the power of water falling from a height.

It will continually create the thundering sound.
It doesn't care about the time of day, the presence or absence of an audience, or anything else.

It just keeps on going.
It doesn't care if it is being compared with any other waterfall or any other grand structure.
It just does what it is supposed to — and it does it really well, unaffected.

Isn't it a miracle to be alive?
Life itself is grand, and every life should treat itself with the grand respect it deserves.

Without caring to impress anyone.
Without concern for praise or criticism.

A life should just do its job — which is to LIVE, fully and unstoppably, until it stops.
Unaffected by anything or anyone.

And that’s the Empire State of Mind.

By Dr. Jaya Sonkar, MD, MPH

6.9.2025