Wednesday, November 6, 2024
Mere saathi mere humsafar!
Sunday, November 3, 2024
We are sufficient!
We are Sufficient!
We are all good, we are all bad, we are all nothing, we are all everything! We are sufficient!
Not everyone is the same
Not everyone likes the same things
Not everyone can do the same things
Not everyone can get along with everyone or anyone
But everyone is important
Everyone is needed
And everyone is sufficient
There are supposedly 5 main elements
Fire,
Air
Space
Earth
Water
Are these the same?
No.
Do we need all ?
Yes
Do they complement each other?
Yes
In different combinations can they make unique creations?
Yes
Are there different types of works or tasks in the world to sustain it?
Yes
Can one person do it all?
No
Would different people need different qualities to accomplish different things?
Yes
Is it important to have different types of people to do different things?
Yes
Let's take a pause and think about the above questions and answers...
We need variations and differences to be able to survive together as a community.
When no two people can be the same and when we need different people, we should be able to accept their differences.
An adventurous person cannot be homely but can do wonders for the whole world.
A homely person can provide passionate and care and be nurturing.
An experimental person can try different things and bring more options for everyone by discovering new things.
A committed person can commit to things and take them to excellence.
We all think we are the best.
Aren't we our favorites?
We always seem to be right in our eyes. It always seems like the other person is at fault.
Can we say that everyone has something good and everyone has something bad?
Can we say that we are all capable of doing good things and bad things?
Can we say that circumstances and surroundings have a role to play in the events around us?
Can we say we can modify the circumstances and events around us to make things good or bad to a certain extent?
Yes?
Then, we have the power to extract good or bad from the other to a certain extent?
Can we make others do what we want?
No
Can we make us do what we want?
Yes
Then who should we reach out to modify the surroundings to get a desired outcome?
To ourselves.
And that's why we should always ask ourselves what could we have done differently to have had a more favorable outcome and would doing so have been a right thing or wrong?
If it seems right and doesn't harm anyone, then we should do it to modify the surroundings and bring out the goodness in ourselves as well as in others.
Fire can never calm a fire down.
If you need to calm a fire then air, space and earth may not be as beneficial but water can do wonders here.
If we need to use the fire to heat up a place, then water may not be the best element. Perhaps some air can blow it up further.
If we use the right element to get the right desired effect, we can do wonders.
Some people are born with an inherent talent to use the right element for the desired effects.
Some will have to develop it.
However, it only helps if done with good intentions and get good results that may be of benefit to one and all.
If done with a wrong desire or intention, then it does good to no one.
We all feel like we are good and we are right but we have to know that this is what everyone feels.
Hence, we should all feel the best in our lives but understand that the others are best in their lives.
We are all good, we are all bad, we are all nothing, we are all everything!
But the most important is that we are all sufficient!
We are all sufficient together!
Without each other, we won't exist.
We can all do our own things peacefully and survive collectively!
We are all good, we are all bad! We are all positives, we are all negatives. Because the net result of all forces has to be a zero to have an equilibrium!
Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH
11.3.2024
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Friday, October 4, 2024
You are You Because They are They!
You are You because They are They!
Let's see this in detail.
We interact with the universe every second.
If the earth wasn't earth, we wouldn't be living as we are
If the sun wasn't shining, we wouldn't be thriving as we are.
If the water wasn't water, life wouldn't be flowing within us the way it does.
If the air wasn't air, we wouldn't be breathing as we do.
If the farmers weren't farmers, we probably wouldn't have enough and would have to farm for ourselves.
If the cleaners weren't there, we probably wouldn't get the hygienic beautiful surroundings and would have to work much harder to maintain that.
If the plumbers weren't there, we wouldn't get the water supply and drainage as we do.
If the electricians weren't there, we wouldn't get electricity the way we do and many of us would have been injured by electric shock
If the entertainers weren't there, we wouldn't have been amused the way we do.
If the engineers weren't there, we wouldn't get megastructures or infrastructure or modes of communication or transport developed
If the architects weren't there, we wouldn't have the safe buildings, bridges, roads etc
If the construction workers weren't there, we wouldn't be able to see this beautifully constructed society.
If the miners were not there, we wouldn't have seen the beautiful gemstones and precious metals.
If the astronauts were not there we wouldn't have known about the universe the way we do.
If the researchers were not there, we wouldn't have known so much about so many things.
If the teachers wouldn't teach, the students won't learn the way they do.
If the authors didn't write, the knowledge wouldn't be able to propagate the way it does.
If the nurses and health technicians were not there, we wouldn't get the medical care at the times of need.
If the doctors were not there, we wouldn't have the health and longevity the way we do.
If the evil wasn't there, we wouldn't have appreciated the goodness the way we do.
If the goodness wasn't there, we wouldn't have experienced the peace the way we do.
If the parents were not there, we wouldn't have been born
If the children were not there, life would come to a halt
If everyone was not doing what they do, we wouldn't be living in the world that we do.
Everyone is important.
Every work is important.
Every belief is important.
Every behavior is important.
Every action is important.
Every reaction is important.
Everything deserves respect.
Everyone deserves respect.
Everything has a meaning.
And everything's makes Us, 'Us'!
Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH
10/4/24
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Sunday, September 29, 2024
Ye Hai To Woh Bhi Hoga (Translation at the bottom)
Saturday, September 28, 2024
Who Benefits?
Who Benefits?
If one is good to the other, who benefits the most?
1. One who is good
2. One who gets the goodness
3. Both benefit equally
4. None
5. Unsure
If one does good deeds but expect nothing in return, who benefits the most?
1. One who does the good deed but doesn't expect.
2. One who receives the good deed
3. Both benefit equally
4. None
5. Unsure
If one focuses on the good actions but doesn't worry about the results, who benefits the most?
1. One who does the action
2. One who watches the action being done
3. One who is receiving the action
4. None
5. Unsure
Would you say that our ancestors, who promoted the following principles, wanted us to be altruistic and renounce the world?
'Be a good samaritan'
'Neki Kar Dariya Mein Daal' ( Do good and don't expect anything in return)
'Karm Kar Phal Ki Chinta Na Kar' ( Focus on actions and not the results)
Who Benefits from all of the above?
It's the one who does these.
How?
When we do good to others in our capacity without harming ourselves or our loved ones, it generates a feeling of happiness, peace and calm.
Whose body would benefit from feeling calm and happy.
The Doer's.
Whose stress level will be low?
The Doer's
Who's BP, Blood Sugar, heart health and mental health will be at its best?
The Doer's
If one focuses on the aim and doesn't get distracted or worried from the possible outcomes, who would have better chances of success?
The Doer's
No one else but the Doer's focus will not dwindle and chances of success will be at their maximum.
And if despite all efforts, the outcomes are different then it just needs to be tried harder.
Our ancestors were not thinking about anyone else's well being but the Doer's well being.
Let's say if one gets a bad rear end because of someone who wasn't paying attention to their driving and forgot to apply brakes at a red light and hits one from behind, and if one gets upset with that person and feel angry, who is at a bigger loss.
One loss has happened, the car has been damaged.
Hopefully, the health is fine. Let's assume the health is fine and no bodily injuries.
Now, drilling that person down would not help with anything. Should one ask for one's rightful remediation.
Absolutely yes.
However, the peaceful space in our minds should stay peaceful despite everything going around.
No one should have the power to enter our minds and bother it.
Let's say , now the car goes to collision center.
The collision center and the insurance team up to work on a cheap repair and collision center fraudulently bills the insurance for new parts but applies old sourced parts and gives the car to one in a not good condition.
How should one react?
We'll, certainly fight for the rightful repair and ask for genuine fix.
However, should one feel angry or fell ill will for them.
No, because it would not benefit one. The damage has already been done. The focus should always be on fixing the issue but again no one should be able to enter one's happy space in the mind and corrupt it because that will be a bigger loss.
Let's say one writes a book with passion and someone tries to blackmail one into paying for reviews and gives one a bad review for not accepting their offer.
Would one benefit from being angry?
Clearly, one should not give in to such requests.
However, bringing a feeling of kindness towards that someone who is interested in reading and may be going through some financial hardship or perhaps is trying to make a living somehow by using these sources, would benefit the author more than being upset.
While wrong deeds should not been encouraged, they should also not be allowed to enter the peaceful space in one's minds and affect one's happiness.
If one does a good deed, but keeps expecting something in return, one only creates a path of misery and sadness if the reciprocation doesn't happen.
One should do only that much that one could do and let go of the expectation of reciprocation.
That way, if the reciprocation doesn't happen, it doesn't affect at all and if it does then one should let the other person experience the goodness within them by being a recipient and feel the gratitude towards the one who reciprocated.
A good deed with an expectation is not a good deed anymore, it becomes business. And business with no returns is a loss which is unpleasant.
Hence a good deed should always happen without an expectation of reciprocation.
Forgiveness, peace and calm, and focus on one's actions without worrying, benefits those the most who follow these.
These are the very selfish things because these aim at self well being the most.
There is no point wasting even a second of the precious life, thinking about something that is unpleasant.
Instead, being pleasant and spreading peace and harmony with a smile benefits one and all, especially the one who does these.
When our ancestors wrote these idioms and taught these principles, they wanted us to be absolutely selfish and not let anything affect the happy space in our mind so we collect the best karma on the way.
Are we ready to be selfish in a good way?
🙂
Dr Jaya Sonkar MD MPH
9/28/2024
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Saturday, September 7, 2024
Let's fly to the moon!
Let's drive!
Acceptance
Monday, August 12, 2024
Commentary on Insights!
Sunday, July 14, 2024
What's the goal?
Sunday, June 30, 2024
Could consciousness seep into robots?
Sunday, June 23, 2024
We Are United!
Life ... with or without the weight!
Saturday, June 15, 2024
The Mind Vibes
Saturday, June 8, 2024
The Beautiful Aging!
The Hawaiian Harmony!
Friday, March 15, 2024
Baarish Ki Boondein
Baarish Ki Boondein
Ye baarish ki boondein laayin rimjhim yaad puraani
Safar purane yaad aye, mano sunaye koi kahani
Kuch meethe kuch khatte palon ko darshak banke Dekha
Yaadon aur sapno ki udaan, na Jane koi rekha
Kabhi bachpan ke khel yaad aye aur yaad ayi kilkari
Kabhi dukhon ke baadal aye aur palkein huin bhari
Yaad aaya pani mein bheegna, chintarahit ho ke khelna
Yaad Aayi sondhi mitti ki sugandh aur boondon ko girte dekhna
Aur yaad aye samose, pakode or masaale vali chai
Aur kaagaz ki naav Jise Pani mein hum tairayein
Ye sunehre pal aur mausam, hum Jane Kahan bhool aaye the
Hridaya ke ek kone mein kahin beete lamhon ke saaye the
Yaadon ka ek karavan Chala, Kahan rukega man bhala
Sabhi ehsaas salone the, sikha gaye the nayi kala
Varsha ke pani mein mano, sabhi kisse dhul gaye
Achhe bure, koi bhi hon, sabhi aapas mein mil Gaye
Baarish ki boondon ki madhur dhwani mein Sabhi chehre khil Gaye
Ye baarish ki boondein laayin rimjhim yaad puraani
Safar purane yaad aye, mano sunaye koi kahani
Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH
3/15/2024
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