Womanhood

Womanhood!

A beautiful princess is born

Star of everyone's eyes

She is delicate as a feather

Yet the ruler of mankind

She needs to be cared for

Because she nurtures life

She is the very essence

She is what makes it alive

Should she be proud 

Should she be scared

Should she be humble

Should she be brave

She is pretty if obedient

She is ugly if rebel

She is desirable if mute

She is hideous when voices

She is herself

Let her be

She cares for her own

Opinion of herself

She should stand

She should speak

She should salute

She should lead 

She is the answer

She is the path

The path is tough

The road is rough

She should have courage

She should have strength

She should be proud 

Of her womanhood.

Some years ago, some gentleman asked me , what do I think about condition of women.

The condition of woman could be good or bad. It depends on how strong she is mentally, physically, socially, financially and above all spiritually.

Are men and women equal?

Absolutely not.

Do they both have brains?

Absolutely yes.

Do they both have equal strength?

Absolutely not

Can they both move mountains?

Absolutely yes

Are they both important

Absolutely yes

Are they both needed for life

Absolutely yes

Do they both have parents

Absolutely yes

Do they both have families

Absolutely yes

Do they both have responsibilities

Absolutely yes

Should they both learn

Absolutely yes

Should they both earn

Absolutely yes

Should they both honor their elders

Absolutely yes

Should they both carry the torch for their ancestors

Absolutely yes

Could they both give birth

Hasn't been achieved until now

Do we need new lives

Absolutely yes

If not abundant, at least enough to continue mankind

Should the woman work

Absolutely yes

Should the woman be given rest when she is bringing a life to the world

Absolutely yes

Should she be penalized for doing so

Absolutely not

Should she be honored for taking the time to nurture a little being

Absolutely yes

Should she be respected for doing so

Absolutely yes

Should she be using this as an excuse to not work

Absolutely not

Should she take care of her parents

Absolutely yes

Should she take care of elderly in laws

Absolutely yes

Should she dump her parents

Absolutely not

Should she allow anyone to dishonor her origin

Absolutely not

Should she put anyone else's parents before hers

Absolutely not

Should she respect and care for all elderly whether parents or not

Absolutely yes

Should HE respect and care for all elderly whether parents or not

Absolutely yes

Should he take care of elderly in laws

Absolutely yes

Should he dump his parents

Absolutely not

Should HE feel superior because of muscle

Absolutely not

Should HE provide care with that muscle

Absolutely yes

Should she misuse that muscle

Absolutely not

Should she honor that care

Absolutely yes

Is dowry a good thing

Absolutely not

Are wedding gifts from everyone good

Absolutely yes 

As it helps two people to come together 

Create a family and provide a little one 

The beautiful home

Growth of children is not just parents responsibility

Its said that it takes a village to grow a child

It actually takes a whole world to raise a child

Should she depend on her brother to take care of those who brought her to life

Absolutely not

Should he depend on his sister to take care of those who brought him to life

Absolutely not

Should HE depend on his wife to take care of those who brought him to life

Absolutely not

Should she be able to work and live her dreams

Absolutely yes

Should she stand up for herself

Absolutely yes

Should this thought that a good daughter in law is someone who let's her parents be humiliated and dishonored and allows herself to be disrespected , stays quiet and gives into everything good or bad, compromises her respect, her wishes and her dreams to put her Spouse 's first, is a well cultured woman , correct?

ABSOLUTELY NOT!

Is she a human

Absolutely yes

Should she live on her own terms

Absolutely yes

Should she hold her head high

Absolutely yes

Should she be a rebel

Hope it's never needed

Should she be kind

Absolutely yes

Should she be learned

Absolutely yes

Should she be educated

Absolutely yes

Should she be nurtured

Absolutely yes

Should she nurture others

Absolutely yes

Are men and women equal

Absolutely not

Both are meant for different purposes 

When it comes to bringing a life

But are they equal otherwise

Let me think...

They both have emotions

Absolutely yes

They both have a mind

Absolutely yes

They both have bodies

Absolutely yes

Should they both be given an equal opportunity to live a full life

Absolutely yes

Women should stop taking pride on how well they were able to abandon their roots to grow into a new soil.

They need to make sure , they are proud of their roots and nurture them, and honor the soil they came from and grow into such a big tree and spread the prosperity to whichever soil they reach!

Are women precious

Absolutely yes

Are men precious

Absolutely yes

It took one Adam and one Eve to make a wonder possible. Look at it, the mountains are moved, the oceans are churned, the stars are reached, and everything that is today became possible.

So both are EQUALLY precious and both should have equal rights to prosper, flourish and LIVE the life to the fullest!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

2/20/2023

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Happy Valentine's Day!

Happy Valentine's Day!

This Valentine's, please remember to look in the mirror and say to your beautiful selves,

'Happy Valentines to me!
Thanks to this body for making this life experience possible.'

Isn't it amazing

To have eyes to see
To have ears to hear
To have buds to taste
To have a sense of smell
To have skin to feel
To have hands to work
To have legs to walk
To have a heart to pump
To have a kidney to cleanse
To have a stomach to digest
To have a liver, a pancreas, a spleen
To have a brain to think
To have so many enormous phenomenon
To make every single second of life possible

Thank God for this mundane body
Which made this eternal life possible
Which let it live what it came for
And feel what it desired
And experience all that it needed.

Ultimately what stays from the beginning to the end?

It our own body, whether or not it has all organs, its our own body that stays with us from the beginning till the end of this one particular chapter of eternal life.

We lose a lot of loved ones, or not so loved ones. Every loss brings a big lesson and it makes us realize that the best companion is our own body who will not leave until the life itself leaves it.

We must be thankful to our own body as it is that one best attire that we always wear and without which nothing is possible in this life.

It is this body which gave us everything in this life and we need to give it back by looking in the mirror and telling it,

' You are awesome, my body!

Thank you for all the experiences, learnings and evolution that this soul has achieved through you.

You even allow me to give to the people who I love, a piece of happiness while they are with me.

I don't need anyone but you to feel complete and feel happy. "

People who love us have similar tendencies as us.
People who don't love us have different tendencies from us.

It's as simple as this.

We need to find our color and gel with it. But once one of the color fades, we should remember to keep our color, try to give the color but not fade away ourselves.

We are complete in ourselves.
We have everything to experience the life.

It is very well said by someone:

What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!

All experiences in life are important and if we have survived those, it is for a reason and that reason is to come out stronger and level up to the next challenge.

Stay strong and live your life to the fullest.

We may want to spend time with our loved ones but we don't need anyone to experience and lead the life successfully as long as we become wiser at every step!

Love is not in a person, love is in the air. Feel it, embrace it and cherish it!

Live, love and laugh!
Happy Valentines Day to all!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH
2/11/2023
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A Dream Life

A dream life!

If you think about it, this moment that we are living now, will become a dream very soon. A good or a bad dream depending on if the present moment is pleasant or painful.

Acceptance is the key to happiness.

It's impossible to change the present. We have a whole lot of scope to change our future but the present is happening and is inevitable.

If this present is unpleasant and we aren't able to accept it, it becomes painful.

If the present is pleasant and it passes and never returns and we want to relive, it becomes painful.

If we are able to accept the present, the way it is and work on shaping the future the way we want it to be, it becomes bearable and perhaps even pleasant.

Oftentimes, the mental pain is only until a 100% acceptance of the present is achieved.

The sooner one accepts and moves on, the happier one could be.

Accepting the present doesn't mean accepting the miseries or joys, it just means , accepting it as is because it is what it is.

The attitude that its going to be what one wants it to be, can fill the present with energy. 

And that energy can result in happiness.

The entire life keeps reforming.

The focus should be on making the next moment a better moment while relishing every ounce of this present moment.

This present moment will pass soon and will feel like a dream.

It's in the memories and may be in the pictures and videos but not in reality. The present moment will become a virtual world soon.

So, we are living a dream at all times.

We just need to keep working on feeling pleasant and calm with every dream and accept the way it is.

It doesn't matter what others think and say about one's present experience. It's about giving oneself own space without feeling guilty or great and just feel one's own presence and one's own experience and be oneself and be one with the universe with a 100% acceptance and awareness.

This present will pass in less than a second and will become virtual reality or a dream forever.

After all, it's a dream life! One can turn it whichever way one wants it to be. A pleasant one or a nightmare!

And if one has a choice, shouldn't it be a good one!

Live a dream life!

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

1.18.2023

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I'm the phoenix

 I'm a phoenix

I will rise from the ashes

I'm an incense

I will burn and spread the fragrance

I am the fire

I will spread the warmth all over

I am the passion

I will make you pursue yours

I am the muse

I will spread the motivation

I'm the kindness

I will bring cheer to others

I'm a winner

I don't compete but win the race

I'm the hero

I will ace the eggshell walk

I'm a survivor

I will live life to the fullest

I will flourish

I have been carved by the nature

I'm a star

I will shine nice and bright

I'm the goodness

I will never change for anyone

I'm the courage

I will go on forever and ever

I'm a fighter

I will die before I give up

I'm a phoenix

I will rise from the ashes

I'm a phoenix

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD  MPH

10/28/2022

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Swayam hi param hai

Swayam hi param hai!

Jeene ke liye Humsafar chahiye

Humsafar ke liye safar chahiye

Safar ke liye sehat chahiye

Sehat ke liye keemat chahiye

Keemat ke liye buddhi chahiye

Buddhi ke liye anubhav chahiye

Anubhav ke liye dard chahiye

Dard ke liye bharosa chahiye

Bharose ke liye himmat chahiye

Himmat ke liye dhairya chahiye

Dhairya ke liye atma bal chahiye

Atma bal ke liye atmnirbhar hona chahiye

Atmnirbhar hone ke liye jeev chahiye

Isliye swayam hi param hona chahiye

Swayam se swayam ka parichaya hona chahiye

Kyunki swayam hi adi se ant tak hai!

Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

9.25.2022

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Ek chidiya pinjra tod gayi

 Ek chidiya pinjra tod gayi!

Ek chidiya pinjra tod gayi

Pinjre mein sukh dukh dono the

Sukh sanjoye, dukhon ko chhod gayi

Ek chidiya pinjra tod gayi

Ek bandhan se riha hui

Jis bandhan ko saja ke rakhti thi

Par bandhan to bandhan hi tha

Rihai mein apnapan hai

Wo bandhan mukt ho ud gayi

Kiwaad jahaan ke khol gayi

Aanchal aasmaan ka odh gayi

Ek chidiya pinjra tod gayi

Ek chidiya pinjra tod gayi

Ek meetha dana chhod gayi

Ek janam mein kai addhyaya

Janmo janmo ke padh gayi

Ek chidiya pinjra tod gayi

Pashchim se wo mukh mod gayi

Udi, suraj ki ore chali

Ek chidiya pinjra tod gayi

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

9.22.2022

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Small can be big and big can be small!

Small can be big and big can be small!

A small COVID virus can give the entire world a run for it's life.

A small receptor in a cell can cause a whole human body to malfunction

A small gesture can cause the entire lifeto shatter

A small gesture can make a beautiful life

A small receptor antagonist can give a new life to the body

A small vaccine molecule can keep COVID virus at bay

We are very small as compared to the universe. Yet, our smallest actions can cause the biggest reactions.

Believe in yourself! Believe in the power of thoughts.

We feel the way we want to feel and tell our minds to feel.

We can train our minds to believe anything, do anything and become anything.

If we train ourselves, even an avalanche would seem amusing.

If we train ourselves well enough, we can lead very content life.

In this journey of life, there are many passengers. Everyone has a different destination. No two passengers have the same destination. 

The journey varies constantly. The scenery changes, the passengers change, even we change. We change as we become wiser with every experience.

If we take all the wisdom and imbibe it within us, we learn the biggest lesson that all of us are capable of miracles. All of us are capable of making a change in this universe. It depends on us on what we choose to do.

We can be full of love and kindness and feel the love and kindness from within and look at everything with compassion.

Even the weakest being is powerful enough to bring a significant change. If it was not for ants, rocks would not become soil and soil would not become plants and  plants would not nourish animals and we would not exist.

If we want, we can feel the power of the universe and become one with it.

Dr. Jaya Sonkar MD MPH

9/4/2022

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