Love and hate are the two sides of the same coin!
Hurdles, hatred and enemies are very important just as love, kindness and care is.
Have you ever felt like some people are out there to get you? OR
Some people's aim is to destroy you?
Excluding mental illnesses and extremes, below is one explanation of why people do what they do and what people should feel in response to things.
Sometimes, people don't want you to fall. They just want to be the reason for your rise. They want you to need them. They love you so much that they want to become the reason and they want to be recognized as the reason behind your success.
Yes, when they get upset, they may not have the best way to get the point across and may be misconstrued as unwell wishers.
Kindness and love are two expressions that can melt a stone heart just by an emotional touch.
While it is good to be kind and spread love, please note that it is also important to give others the opportunity to shower kindness and love on you.
May be they would ask for a favor in return or may be they would just want the same kindness and love or may be they just want to do it selflessly to show you that they love you.
Either way, they want to be associated with you, just because they care.
Just take a moment and think, can any human being become what s/he is, without anyone's help?
Humans are totally helpless when they are born
Then, they learn to walk and talk. They get their foundations and life long support from their roots
Then, they go out in the world.
The teachers, the friends and even bullies play a very important role in learning all sorts of lessons.
Believe it or not, sometimes our greatest enemies are the biggest reasons behind our success.
If you get food served on a golden platter everyday, you might not worry about where it came from.
What if someone takes everything from you and leaves you on the streets to survive, you have no other way out but to struggle to survive or die. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."
There may be kind and cruel ways of teaching and learning but the end goal is always the same, wisdom.
The harsher the lesson, the more is the wisdom.
After all, if mother Kekai wasn't there, would the legend of Lord Ram and Sita be created?
If Ravana wasn't there, would Lord Ram ever be worshipped as he is now?
If Duryodhan wasn't there, would Arjun have ever learned those lessons from Shri Krishna that he learned in the battlefield.
It doesn't imply that harsh lessons are better. Kind lessons are better as they do not cause sadness.
Harsh lessons can be hit or miss. What if one is not able to cope with it?
But, what choices do we have? The glass is both half full and half empty. A positive outlook can lead to positive outcomes.
Life experiences and forces of nature and doings of nature take one to the next level.
Every joy and every sorrow comes with a lesson. Every gain and every loss takes us one step closer to wisdom.
Every moment, we are evolving to be closer to ultimate peace and joy.
Give love and get love.
Spread kindness and absorb kindness.
And when someone creates hurdles for you, thank him or her and just know that somehow that person wants some kind of recognition in shaping you the way you are.
They say every action has an equal and opposite reaction. In the world of love and hatred every action has a same and equal reaction. This is good except, if we respond to hate with love, the reaction can become very pleasant and prosperous.
A fight or a war can never bring harmony.
Only love, peace, forgiveness and understanding can bring peace and harmony. And only there, can a bud bloom into a flower. A bomb can only destroy the ground. Only nurturing can grow a flower from the earth.
Let's aim for a very peaceful life!
Jaya Sonkar MD MPH
4/26/2022
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